When Love Has to Be Earned, It Stops Feeling Like Love
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When Love Has to Be Earned, It Stops Feeling Like Love

There’s a strange kind of emptiness that shows up in marriages that were once full. It doesn’t always come with yelling or betrayal. Sometimes, it’s just the slow realization that love has become a performance—something you must work for, wait for, and maybe never fully receive. And when that happens, something inside you begins to…

Affection Withheld: When Love Feels Like Something You Have to Earn
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Affection Withheld: When Love Feels Like Something You Have to Earn

Not all distance is physical. Some of the deepest loneliness exists inside relationships—especially in marriage. You sleep in the same bed. You make decisions together. You might even laugh and function like a team. But affection? That feels miles away. Not just missing—guarded. Conditional. Something you have to earn. That’s where I live right now….

Marriage and the Power of Seeing Each Other as Individuals
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Marriage and the Power of Seeing Each Other as Individuals

Marriage is a sacred union, but it’s also the coming together of two unique, whole individuals. When we forget this, the marriage can begin to fracture. Misguided interpretations of Scripture, like the idea that “two become one” (Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:6), sometimes perpetuate the idea that individuality disappears within the union. In reality, this oneness…

Navigating the Challenges of Marriage and Change
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Navigating the Challenges of Marriage and Change

Marriage can be a journey filled with joy, companionship, but also challenges and the potential for separation. When faced with the prospect of divorce, it becomes crucial to introspect and understand the changes needed to preserve the relationship. Understanding the Need for Change To avoid divorce, significant changes may be necessary. This starts with introspection…

The Blame Game: Navigating Fault, Forgiveness, and Human Imperfection
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The Blame Game: Navigating Fault, Forgiveness, and Human Imperfection

Life often seems to revolve around assigning blame. Men are criticized for not providing enough, while women are faulted for not being good helpers. This perpetual cycle of blame and defensiveness can lead to deep-seated feelings of inadequacy and the urge to escape from those we believe we have disappointed. In this imperfect world, everyone…